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all right well I was looking looking through some of the news articles that I read every week that kind of fly through my email and some of the news sites that I look at if I came across a really interesting article in Psychology Today or Psychology Today Wood today what a popular psychology articles and this was actually a refreshing article the title of it was evolutionary psychology as a superpower okay turns out this is a writer for Psychology Today who attended the heterodox psychology conference in Southern California okay for which which the keynote speakers were leda cosmides and john tooby ah ok this guy reviews this conference and it's just incredible he basically says that evolutionary psychology is a superpower well this was john tooby when he said in his presentation that evolutionary psychology is a superpower and he explains he goes through this article which I'm going to put up there it's put up on the Facebook group the fans of the beat Eugene's podcast and I'll also put up in the show notes for the website beat your genes org yeah but he basically goes through and says that John to B's points that unveiled the superpower is there's a couple of them but one of the really interesting ones I haven't thought about before is that large scale politics are such a mess partly because the human mind only evolved to deal with small scale politics right in the context of you know the the sky is falling with all the you know political things going on nowadays which stopped counting track of it makes perfect sense yes it's all good I'm glad glad to hear that I actually I didn't say this but about Oh two weeks ago we can half ago I had the opportunity to have dinner with tooby and cosmides and actually spent five hours with them we started at 5:30 and we went till 10:30 and it was it was terrific it it was they're they're very different personalities john tooby is a very quiet reserved he's very careful chooses his words very carefully deeply thoughtful systematic I mean he's obviously a great mind and then his wife Lita is just lovely is is just there's a thousand words a minute coming out of there and it's coming fast and furious and she's she's processing every nuance of what's going on in her mind right out of her right out of her mouth so you better be paying attention are you going to miss it ha ha ha so in their in their household she wins ten words to one but but they but his his or is you know is richer or so it all it all winds up even that there there's something to listen to they were they were not really aware of you know they certainly were aware in principle that clinical psychology could use evolutionary psychology obviously they knew that that that had to be so but they they weren't aware that anybody was applying it and so I was explaining some of the things that I do and they were you know they seemed interested but they're great they're gracious people so they were but it was it was a lot of fun I got to check a lot of my own thinking against what they had to say and it was it was a pleasure it was one of the it's kind of like if you were if you were a music person you got to meet Paul McCartney I mean that would be really cool and I got to to meet these folks and I think I thank my friend Henry for setting this up it was just a terrific thing Wow fantastic yeah every every person that I meet who has some sort of interest and we start talking about evolutionary psychology if they really are interested rather than you know arguing about status I am the I send up the evolutionary psychology primer by leda cosmides and john tooby and every time they read it everybody gets in touch it says oh my god it blew their mind and then next they're on the david bus and you know and everything that you yes you've had mir website so it's just incredible yeah all cool so yeah i got to brag about dollars I had forgotten last week to brag about that on the show and I got off from my cat and I forget brag about that so I'm glad you reminded me because I had forgotten again now I got him alright alright what are we up to well today we're talking about different questions we got three main questions and if we have time we're going to go through some more but the main questions we're going to just start from the top and this is about being productive dr. Lyle I struggled to be productive and accomplish my goals unless I create a ton of urgency in my mind unfortunately I can't conjure up this kind of urgency all the time however I know that I can do better if I apply myself or my strategies to get myself to do the work just not complete enough I want to accomplish effort and organization but I never seem to be able to stick with my plans do I just need to plan an even more detailed way so that I figure out all the ways I'm failing stick to the plan and then shore up those weak moments you've talked before on the show about strategies to learn large amounts of information or go through a lot of work to get a job but can you go into detail on what this looks like practically yeah this looks a little different than those things so what we're looking at here is a is a the reason let's back up the camera up for just a second and let's ask ourselves the question why does anybody do anything and the answer as to why they do anything is cost-benefit analysis and so if they can't find themselves sticking to the plan it's because layers of their brain are running the cost-benefit analysis on all of their behavioral options and the little details of the plan and the plan itself doesn't seem like it's worth doing so in print what the plan is is it's a hypothesis about what might be worth doing and the person is spending a fair amount of time sort of thinking that through kind of mapping it out in their mind and then thinking okay that's probably a good idea and maybe I ought to do it okay but the person is really not the whole mine is not convinced and there's reasons why it's not convinced there's a the most fundamental and the most gross level analysis of the problem is the cost-benefit analysis so this is where I like to use the ostrich experiment so if the Germans told you okay you have to execute this plan and do ll the details associated with this plan and you have to do it meticulously every waking hour that you can afford to do it well if you are as long as you're not sleeping and you're not chewing food and not taking a shower not pooping you're working on this plan and if you do this for the next 18 months then we let you walk across the river into Switzerland and if you don't you're dead now would you do it you would why because of the cost-benefit analysis so a lot of times when I'm listening to somebody say gosh you know I just feel like I can't do this or you know it's just so hard to get this done and it's well within their abilities to do it my first question is you know are we in Auschwitz or are we not in Auschwitz okay how badly do you want this like how important is it to you and the answer is well you know they've got multiple goals and multiple agendas and they've got all kinds of things that they might want to do to compete with this for time and energy and so you know that's why the plan is going arise because it's really not that necessarily worth it now there are other reasons that can stop us so I'll talk about two that are primary that can they can essentially stop us on our way to something and that sometimes we need to take out the magnifying glass and check it out one is that your mind can detect something in an overall plan there is something in there some some part of the chain of events and actions that are going to be required to be successful is something that you're not sure that you can do and that that is gumming the works it's a it's a bottleneck for the motivational system you can sniff that you you can do step one step step two three and four but somewhere out there in step five there's a mess and you're not so sure that you can handle it and so you're avoiding all of it even though you can see that if you got through Step five you can do step six through sixteen which would take you 80% of the way the goal then there'd be a snag at 17 but you'd have so much momentum it would be so worth it to finish that you would get it done but the problem is there's a snag is step six and you can you can sense it okay might require more money than you're willing to spend on it maybe it's going to cost eight hundred dollars instead of three hundred dollars that you have earmarked for the project whatever it is and so as a result you're may require abilities that you're not sure that you can do or that you can buy or manage or create and learn etc so we could be stopped by low self-efficacy so therefore we we chain our way through or make a list of all the micro goals that are going to be required to get to the outcome then we see inclusion whether or not we can solve them in principle and so then we we look at that thing and we see if there's something in there that are essentially our subconscious mind is circling around and throwing up as a red flag that is gumming up the works of our motivation hmm so that's another thing a third thing and another major factor and why people don't produce towards worthwhile goals is the ego trap so once again this is being driven by some degree of uncertainty with respect to the person's self-efficacy so they're not sure that they can achieve it and they and not only I mean most goals that are worthwhile you are not sure that you can achieve there is a there's a degree of uncertainty about whether or not will be possible and the reason is is that most goals that you are attempting to achieve that are worthwhile are sitting under competitive pressure and because they're they're almost always about esteem process so we're attempting to earn a steam and the steam that's worth earning is going to be a the esteem that we will earn towards the end of our reach in terms of our abilities so we're going to set the bar pretty high or it's not going to feel exciting but when we set the bar high the whole point of the high bar is that it's it's pushing our assessment of our own ability to do it and so the as a result of that we can we could also feel like that goal would be a worthy demonstration of who it is that we are but the problem is is that other people may already think that we can do it and so for them it would just be an obvious affirmation but for us it's more than an obvious affirmation it's actually a challenge that we're not sure that we can accomplish and so we run the cost-benefit analysis on whether or not it's worth putting out the time and energy and trying to attempt to do this thing because not only is it a time and energy issue but it is also an esteem risk issue so we could wind up losing more esteem than the esteem that we have the gain or we could wind up potentially putting at risk enough esteem that the esteem gain versus minus the potential esteem loss is a net total gain that we have to run that analysis against the time and energy that's involved with the activity in the first place and so as a result and all multiplied by the probability of success with the whole operation so as a result we can see that there's a cost benefit analysis that isn't simply our questions about self efficacy and it's not simply a question about how worthwhile or what the gains would be if we were able to achieve it and it's not just about how much energy is going to be required to achieve it but it's also about whether or not there's status loss that is potentially involved by us attempting to something and failing so all of this is these are all the reasons why we have the mess that we have with respect to someone's situation that they just described so I have I'm quite confident that if I were to speak to this individual and we were to find out what goal it was that they were talking about and the scatterbrained half-assed attempts that they were making in order to do this and that they get sidetracked and don't put out the energy etc we're going to find at the rid of it there's going to be essentially undigested elements of uncertainty to the self-efficacy there's going to be and thereby if you're not if you there's snags that you can smell that you're not sure whether or not you can do that all by itself throws a monkey wrench into your ability to do a cost-benefit analysis on the whole operation you don't you can't analyze what your odds of success are because there's too many variables and you can't analyze what what energy and the costs are going to be involved etc so essentially when we get right down to it the reason why anybody or anything any animal ever does anything is behind cost-benefit analytics that's what the brain is is it's actually a cost-benefit analytic engine and what it uses for data is it uses it uses its sensory inputs from the environment alongside is memory systems and those two things together are inputs into a cost-benefit calculus where it is it is weighing its options for behavior and attempting to arrive at the most efficient payoff for gene survival with respect to every unit of energy that it's going to put out so the what looks like just a personality foible or just being a flake or any this kind of thing actually is very deeply engineered by wordless survival and reproductive algorithms that are built into the brain that's what the motivational lem is and the solution to the problem is is going to be precision over the parameters so it's it's actually being willing to take a deep breath face the ego trap roll up our shirt sleeves and really analyze are there things that we don't know or were there things that we're not sure that we can do analyze what the cost is a public failure if we put out that energy look at what the whole upside is versus the the lost downside as well as the energy output and find out whether or not we can get increasing precision on the payoff matrix or the payoff estimation the motivational efficiency of this particular goal and what we often will find with a goal that's been swirling around in somebody's head for a while maybe years is that there's a lure there that their mind is analyzing that this may well be a very worthwhile thing to do but but it's got parameters that they haven't they haven't investigated they're kind of afraid of investigating it there's ego trap issues there's there's also time and trouble and energy that it would take to actually even do the parametric estimation so there are other competing agendas there's other things that they could do with their time and energy so there's all kinds of things that get in the way of a seemingly worthwhile goal being executed and but when we when we start to strip away some of the things that are getting in between we find one of two things happens we find that the person either becomes more inspired and attacks the goal more aggressively or they look more carefully at the cost-benefit analysis when they get more information and say to themselves you know what it's really not worth doing it's not worth doing now under the conditions that that are available to me and that's fine so now what happens is the mind quits turning to this as often because the the analysis of the motivational efficiency of that course of action has been vetted more carefully and now it's excitement has toned down because the motivational efficiency is judged to be too low to be worried about executing so this happens in the business world a lot some guy has 47 properties you know within his company and he's got you know a potential project where he's going to build a McDonald's over there in a car wash in some other lot and he's got a little shop strip-mall that he wants to put in bridgeport etc and he's looking at the local economies and he's got data coming in and he'll have some project that is just going to sit there for six years and then something happens somebody builds an Indian casino and suddenly he's like God guess what time to put in the gas station over on that corner that we own you know that we own on you know Central Avenue in Galt California suddenly we know hey it's worth doing okay so this is this is uh very many goals in life our back-burnered and fiddled with until the parameters come up but for a person who feels like no just I'm almost ready to shut up but for a person who feel like yeah okay see I'm really interesting okay for a person who feels like they've got a nagging sense that they're letting life pass them by and they are not actually get down - down down something that's important I would have them look very carefully at the ego trap in other words do we fear the fact that we're going to look foolish and lose status if we fail if that's a significant factor in the equation then I would encourage that individual you know I'm saying to look carefully at this and - I mean I don't know go to the MacDougal website and look at my videos I had one that I did in January of 2016 called the slow fast way and it's the story of weight loss but it's really not weight loss it's really the story of the ego trap and the the also I have other videos I think on my website success force also talks about this to some degree the but the ego trap is is a punishing and very unfortunate byproduct of human elegant human status defense and we had to have it in the system it was obviously evolutionarily useful to be very careful about finding out when we thought others thought that we we could do things that we weren't sure that we could do and so even though they might be worth achieving to demonstrate those abilities or get the goods that would be resulting from from those attempts it is it is it is dangerous to possibly lose that status and we can feel what it feels like we're in one of those situations where we feel the embarrassment and the fear of social status loss by potentially failing so that if that is part of the of the counter motivation towards a worthwhile goal then that is really worth attacking ok it's really worth saying to go through the analytics and go through the mental exercise of what do I really have to lose and and woo is going to laugh at me and what will be the social costs and let's and how long will those costs last I believe that one of the reasons that the ego trap is as potentially destructive as it can be in human life today is because it has a sticky quality to it in evolution that doesn't exist today and therefore an evolution in evolutionary history we had to be careful because the substantial loss could sit inside that social village for a long time and so whenever we were overrated it would make us as careful as possible about not disproving that delusion that people had about us but when we did of it if we got forced into it which we usually did we had to perform we had to go out and hunt again even though we had been lucky at a previous hunt we won the rock skimming contest against somebody that's better than us but it turned out we just got a lucky break so the point is is that the the defense to be careful about trying to go after goals when we're not sure that we can get them you know the cost becomes so much higher when other people are confident that we can achieve them and so that that puts us in a motivational bind and in the Stone Age it's very possible that the status losses and gains were sticky now I don't know I don't know that any anthropologist you know has been paying attention to this issue but I do actually have some interesting evidence that has been reported it just occurred to me from a cultural anthropologist that went and and lived with some a man and a woman anthropologist went and lived with a group of people and when they did the village was small that they were with but they actually were able to find out but that both the male and the female independently asked the males and the females about who in the village had ever slept with whom and it turns out that the reports were 100% concordant in other words everybody in that village knew who everybody else in that village had ever slept with now that's astonishing well okay so when you think about that you realize look out in the Stone Age village everybody knows what you tried to do everybody knows what you fail that everybody knows and so we carry I believe that that anxiety that if we try something and we fail everybody knows and everybody knows forever okay at that's a delusion in the modern environment not everybody knows for one thing and nobody cares and everybody's so damn busy and self-absorbed but they're not going to pay very much attention you can fail six times no problem maybe you get succeed on the seventh so there's a as a result you know whenever I sniff my I got a big nose anybody's ever met me knows that okay and this big nose was designed by nature to sniff out the ego trap I can smell it on people when I'm working with them and I I'm trying to look for it I don't always get it sometimes it's there and I didn't see it but I'm looking for it okay I'm looking to find out are you afraid to try to improve in this area of your life where you are bored ie not excited with the level of achievement that you have now or depressed ie that you are below the level of achievement that you reasonably think that you should be able to get and you're confused and demoralized as to why you're not getting it or you bitter ie you know you're in the ego trap and you are feeling very disturbed about that motivational dynamic in your life and how it is that you're letting your life slip away and somehow for some reason you are you've got this crippling self-doubt that is checkmating your ability to self you know make the most of yourself so that whenever I smell that like my job is to try to convince that person wait a minute what do we have to lose okay you're not going to lose my respect if we try to break this problem down find out the fundamentals that you're afraid that you may not be able to execute and we go for it and we give it a shot we'll learn something we may lose some time and energy and maybe there's some money involved let's make sure we can afford it but let's sure it he'll give it a shot and let's see what we can learn and whether or not we can grow okay that's the attitude as long as we can afford the loss lene losses you can't afford or physical injury you know death and maybe money but you can sure as hell for the status loss okay so that's that's what we want to that's the instinct where we want to beat the djinns right there and so this you know I didn't realize what what an important question this person asked because it it goes all over human motivation and all over the human condition and so this is so that's you know be beyond red alert for your own for your own ego trap because that's one that we want to we want to see if we can find a way to think our way through that thing and think our way out of it because that's worth getting out of you know the other the rest of it whether the cost is worth it you know whether the upside is worth the risk of time and energy whether or not our low self-efficacy or low confidence with respect to it you know can be changed with examination of new information or a cost estimate of what it's going to take to solve that little link in the chain that may be holding up the show all of those things are legitimate questions of cost-benefit analysis the ego trap is naturally an important part of the cost-benefit analysis but it's overrated by our current nervous systems and it's a distortion as to what it's really going to cost us to to attack it and essentially be willing to face that potential loss we overestimate the losses there and therefore our lives too often wind up impoverished because we don't we do not pin our ears back and go for things that are well worth going for well all right duster not good I've said my piece on that we can move on I you mind if I ask you a couple of our questions that kind of popped in my head not absolutely you had yeah so so with the Eco trap I've just kind of noticed you guys as you talked about the ego trap the last couple of years I scan back in my life and the I've tried this I kind of I've tried to be around people who don't create an ego trap around me surrounding different things yeah seems like the people who tend not to do that overwhelmingly in my own life were people who were into sports and so I don't know what that is maybe it's just that the highly competitive environment allows for people just to not care because they kind of realized that you know everyone's going to be bad when they first start and as they practice more but I wonder if there's something that I'm missing that there's not has to do with sports but just maybe maybe the highly openness or the disagree ability where people really just aren't paying attention um I don't know I don't know about I don't think there's anything magic about sports that influences personalities or anything else on dissent but I will say this and that is Sports is a it's an unusual domain of human life where you there's no hiding from the outcomes and the competition it's all about the competition and you can you can attempt to to posture that you're not trying very hard but if the other guy is going to go ahead that posturing and he's not intimidated he'll just go ahead and try to beat you anyway and so you kind of have to not be posturing and pretending like you are not trying hard okay now people do this and so even on huge stages you will occasionally see the ego trap raise its head I've seen Kobe Bryant make sure he was posturing and make sure that he was looking like he wasn't trying hard when he was actually in some stiff competition that that's a first a list narcissist who who would pull that kind of of stunts even you know right out in front of 20,000 people you would do that the I saw an event that took place I forget what it was and I I believe it is a match race possibly was it between Michael Johnson and some sprinter I can't remember it there was a there was some kind of a match race and I believe it was the great to 220 men I think that's who it was Michael Johnson if I'm remembering and there was a hundred meter champion and they had a match race and half you know it was going to be 150 yards to really see the fastest human I think people were fascinated with I think I'm remember I may be remembering the man's name wrong but it doesn't begin my yeah yeah but I mean I think it I think Michael Johnson is the name of that great sprinter from 25 years ago the and anyway the I believe it was with Donovan Bailey I think Bailey when they ran this race Johnson pulled up that you know 75 yards or whatever was when he was getting beat and Bailey said I knew he was going to do that okay I knew he was going to pull up if I started beating him and of course Johnson is like hey got a quadricep problem now and it's like well who's going to call him a liar well Bailey did but we'll never know but it didn't surprise me that that was that that happened and I believe that it was probably an ego trap process that the the world had been blown away by Johnson's performance in the Olympics I think he spoke the 220 maybe the 440 I mean he was a very unusual runner spectacular your world champion I mean he was something special but the world then wanted to test his limits like hey are you actually better than 100 meter champion in heaven and the answer was no no he wasn't but that's why they they didn't put it 100 meters and that's why it wasn't run 100 meters so they put the race at 150 but it turns out now 100 meters runner was going to beat him at 150 meters and and he didn't want the world to see that and so what do we get you know could I be wrong sure but it's sure curious in 100 other races that where he's running to 220 yards we don't pull up with an injury that was the day we pulled up with an injury so this is not to degrade this person at all this is to show you that if you put enough chips on the line for just about anybody even in sport you're going to wind up in situations where where people are essentially forced to defend their status just because they've got too much to lose but usually in sports you don't have a kind of a hokey situation like that and so sportsmen and women don't have anywhere to hide and so that's a that's a place where you have to put it all out on the line and the world gets to see who wins and who loses okay and that's the way it is so so that that's maybe part parcel of some of the things that you've seen in your life with people that are into sports and perhaps they also have a enough competitiveness that they are that they are willing to engage in competitions and they are possibly willing to lose if they lose and they are there they're the people that he would engage is such things may be more psychologically resilient to those kinds of losses potentially and essentially so that that could be an equation I don't know but go ahead I'm sorry no I I timed it wrong no no no words no I'm not hearing it so anyway that said you had if you have some other follow-up question is so this is all I would Sharia Territory but ya know I was curious if you thought that highly disagreeable people were more prone to become in the ego trap whereas more highly agreeable people may be more likely to not not try as hard because they're satisfied with the level of status they are currently achieved with they're with a particular goal I have no idea and I wouldn't have Ness that except for the possibility that more disagreeable people are that they're in general going to be miscalibrated so but that but that would that would mean that they would be willing to swing for fences and they would be more likely to fail just because they are they're going to generally probably going to be miscalibrated I would think but that that miss calibration wouldn't cause them to necessarily have these sort of dual or this underlying cost-benefit analytic machine saying wait a second I don't think we can do it but they think we can so I don't see that it necessarily fits into a personality style but it would be it this could be somebody if somebody ever looked at Carol Dweck's work with mind set theory with kids they could I mean general main effect is does the social environment put the bar too high for you and that's what creates the the ego trap effect they don't call it that they just call it this it's the mindset effect the but but I don't think anybody has thought to to throw the big five at this I don't think as much is much of a personality dynamic although I wouldn't be surprised if there's some personality dynamics in it but it's not so much a personality dynamic is it is a general systems dynamic of human nature so in principle anybody can be put in the ego trap the example of this was John Wooden so John Wooden was a relentless teacher of fundamentals and a relentless champion of the idea that our job is to be as good as we can be to practice as well as we can and we're going to let the game take care of itself and whether we win or lose whatever he says I want to win but the the what I really want is for us to have reached our potential so this is this is sort of one of the great sages you know of all time that this is the this is his this is what made him an extraordinary teacher of humans is this concept now it's interesting is that he even told some friend of his that that pretty soon by the Walton era he was wanting to quit and that's because the expectations had become so high that he was that it was no fun so it was it was fun when he was surprising everybody in the world and his team's kept winning and winning and winning that was and everybody kept being amazed but by the time they won so often so consistently that everybody expected his teams to win then it wasn't any fun okay so he reported that he was in the ego trap and he didn't like it and he considered retiring so this is you know if a guy that I mean obviously the expectations were extraordinary the pressure was tremendous they call the guy The Wizard of Westwood for God's sakes and when they when they when they lost once you know in I think the early 70s when the Walton team got beat you know he he considered retiring right then just like you just didn't want the pressure because I do it was no fun so if so the idea is is that this is not so much a personality issue is it's a human dynamics issue so when we any just about anybody can be ego trapped and so we you know if we if we send the social signals in there in the right way we can ego trap them and if we sink them in the right way send them in the right way we can uh nigo trap them and so what we need to do is learn how to undergo trap ourselves by by looking to see that feeling of fear and the feeling of potential embarrassment and and that that's stopping us from attempting to take on a well worthwhile goal that we can afford financially and we can afford in terms of time and then and we have a dream that we feel like we might be able to do this and it would be well worthwhile for us to do it if we could accomplish it but we're feeling that fear and if we're feeling that fear we want to attack it that's going to be one of the most worthwhile moves that we can ever learn fantastic well we got a caller on hold so we're going to take this color in just a second yeah we're really good friends nowadays was my teacher in high school and we became friends after I was supposed to turn in some assignment I did a half-ass job at the very beginning and then he just basically said yeah whatever you're never going to do a good job you're never going to do a good job to the point where I just said you know what I'm going to prove you wrong and I end up doing a really good job on and he was really impressed and we've been friends ever since so yeah every once in a while we joke around about you know when we're trying to inspire each other do something is yeah yeah you're not going to do it you're not going to do it and then right that's it what's up being big it's a letter back to the board yeah what's actually really interesting is that that one of the things that I will do clinically with people is once I explain the trap to them and and then what I say is I say yeah you probably can't do it and they know that this is a joke they know that it's a joke they can they can tell but it starts to act in the right way they start to feel the irritation of being underestimated and underestimation is a highly motivating force to say you're not giving me enough status I'm going to go prove you wrong okay and so even doing it in jest they can feel it and this is how we can you can look inside yourself and identify the ego trap dynamic because the shift can take place in ten seconds so there can be feeling ego trapped understand it it's nebulous it's still hanging around even though they're seeing it and then I start insulting them and now you probably can't get this done and forget just forget the whole goal don't even bother read I think you can write the Great American Novel well what are the chances that's going to happen axe and going to happen okay you start needling them just real friendly and so for any clinicians out there or parents or coaches I mean there's a little bit art to that and yet you have to earn the fact that the person knows you're totally in their corner but when you even put on that act for 20 seconds they can feel it they could start to feel like there it is and they can they can feel what it feels like to be motivated with nothing to lose like oh you don't think that I can do it well I will I'm in a bus my rear end now to see whether or not just how close I can get even if I can't get there and that that tells us how potent the ego trap can be when it comes to dampening our enthusiasm for pursuing our dreams yeah I had a friend last year who started eating more plant plant food diet and he would constantly talk to people about it and people would say the classic line of oh I could never do that so he'd look them up and down say yeah I don't think you could do it either and I loved almost almost every time you know yeah few months later they come back they're like look I've been on the vegan thing or the Whole Foods thing whatever it was yeah that that's a thing of beauty that's just a great line
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